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Young, Broke, And Married: Why I Started A Family At 22 | Shaun Mahlangu
BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here -https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband Support the vision and join the community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 24: YOUNG, MARRIED & FIGURING IT OUT What happens when your faith, finances, and fatherhood all collide? In this honest and soul-stirring episode, we sit down with Shaun Mahlangu, a husband, father of three, and creative content creator, who opens up about the raw reality of becoming a husband at 22 and navigating life, love, and fatherhood with nothing but a dream, a prayer, and a patient wife. From counting coins, trying to buy a "kota" to losing jobs, feeling like a failure, and watching the light fade from his wife's eyes, Shaun doesn’t hold back. This isn’t just a story; it’s a mirror for every man who's ever wondered, “Am I enough?” Shaun shares how being a broke husband nearly broke him, and what it took to climb out of depression, insecurity, and envy. We discuss retrenchment and redefining masculinity through the lens of failure and faith. You’ll hear what it’s like to cry in the car before work, battle anxiety silently, and still choose to show up every day for your wife, your kids, and your calling. More than that, you’ll hear how God shows up with grace for every child born, every prayer whispered, and every husband willing to keep failing forward. If you’ve ever felt crushed under the weight of expectations or afraid to dream with empty pockets, this episode is for you. It’s a love letter to resilient wives, a tribute to cycle-breaking fathers, and a reminder to all men: your brokenness doesn’t disqualify you, it may just be the very place where God rebuilds you. Don’t miss this deeply reflective, personal, and hope-filled conversation. Get in touch with us - [email protected] FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #ThatHusbandPodcast #HusbandTalks #failingforward #youngmarriage #BlackLoveStories #christianmarriage #HusbandsInTheMaking #fathersmatter #MenCryToo #MarriageInRealLife #realmenrealtalk #FaithfulFathers #GraceInTheMess #menandmentalhealth #VulnerableMen #cyclebreakers #BlackHusbandsMatter #marriagetestimony #godstiming #loveandstruggle #marriagepodcast #menwholead #DadLifeUnfiltered #FromBrokenToBuilt #GodsEconomy
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Failed Engagement, Giving Up My Apartment: The Pressure To Marry Almost Broke Me | Justin Henry
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Cheated On, Broken & Finding Real Love – How Friendship Opened Up My Heart Again | Tebogo Mphohle
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I Asked Her To Trust Me, But I Didn’t Realise How Costly It Would Be | Sihle Xulu
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Asking My Wife To Live With My Mom Wasn't About Control: The Truth Of "Ukukotiza" | Ayanda Buthelezi
Join That Husband's Corner, our mailing list, and community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband Join That Husband's Corner, our mailing list, and community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 20: BREAKING THE IN-LAW STIGMA What happens when culture, marriage, and modern masculinity collide? In this deeply personal episode, we sit down with Ayanda Buthelezi to unpack the often misunderstood practice of "Ukukotiza." In this traditional Nguni custom, a new bride spends time with her in-laws to learn the rhythms, responsibilities, and expectations of married life. But this is not just about tradition—it's about identity, manhood, and the sacred in-between space where a wife is not just joining a family but shaping one. As husbands, we often stand silently at the edge of this process. But what if our silence is costing us something? Ayanda opens up about how Ukukotiza has evolved—how some families still treat it as a rite of passage with dignity, while others risk turning it into exploitation. We reflect honestly on what it means for a man to guide, protect, and honour this season, not as a controller, but as a covering. It’s about more than chores—it’s about culture, character, and covenant. Whether you grew up watching "Ukukotiza" from the side lines or are navigating it with your new wife today, this episode invites you to rethink your role as a husband in a culturally rich but emotionally complex tradition. This isn’t just a conversation about our wives—it’s about us, too. About how we honour her, honour our elders, and honour God in how we merge culture and covenant. Get in touch with us - [email protected] FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #Ukukotiza #MakotiDiaries #MarriageCulture #NguniTraditions #ModernMakoti #thathusbandpodcast #HusbandsInCulture #FaithAndTradition #marriagetalks #SouthAfricanMarriage #ChristianHusbands #CulturalConversation #ManhoodAndMarriage #MakotiJourney #MarriageRoles #UbuntuInMarriage #CulturalRites #AfricanMarriageTraditions #MenWhoLeadWell #loveandculture #BridgingGenerations #biblicalmanhood #HonouringHer #marriagewisdom #AyandaButheleziConversation
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