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Stop Chasing, Just Commit – What I Keep Learning From Loving a Good Woman | Bonko Khoza
BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here - https://thathusband.kit.com/63905de2db Join That Husband's Corner, our mailing list, and community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 17: SHE GAVE ME FREEDOM TO FIND MY VOICE In this episode, we sit down with the incredibly thoughtful and grounded Bonko Khoza — not just as an actor, but as a husband, father, and man who continues to wrestle honestly with what it means to show up for the people he loves. This is a conversation between husbands for husbands, where we strip back the performances and talk real about legacy, failure, oneness, sacrifice, and the quiet strength it takes to stay committed — not just to our wives, but to the kind of men we aspire to be. We talk about the gift and weight of fatherhood, the long road of partnership, and how black men are redefining marriage not as an institution of performance, but of purpose. Bonko shares deeply about how his wife has been both his safety and mirror, and how navigating change within marriage requires humility, introspection, and a kind of teamwork that often goes unseen. This episode isn’t about perfection — it’s about persistence, vulnerability, and learning to love from a place of truth, not tradition. If you're a husband, or hope to be one, this episode is a love letter to the sacred and messy middle of marriage. It's for those who grew up without examples and those who carry the legacy of good men. It's for the ones trying to break cycles, build homes, and do the work of becoming. As always, this space is for us — to know better so we can do better. Welcome back to That Husband Podcast. Get in touch with us - [email protected] FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #thathusbandpodcast #BonkoKhoza #BlackMenInLove #marriagematters #HusbandsForHusbands #modernmarriage #BlackLoveMatters #fatherhoodjourney #husbandgoals #authenticmanhood #creativecouples #marriagewisdom #VulnerableConversations #sacredmasculinity #faithandfamily #emotionalintelligence #LoveAndLegacy #CommitmentOverComfort #healthymasculinity #buildingtogether #MarriageIsWork #OnenessInMarriage #blackfathersmatter #LoveIsLabor #marriageiswork
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A Shack, A Secret & A Dream: She Stayed Even With A Leaking Roof - Jacob Msipha
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I Was A Christian Leader, Then I Got Her Pregnant - Lebohang Mohoera (fixed audio)
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I Want To Do Marriage Right, But No One Is Showing Men How - Manelisi Mdaka
BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here - https://thathusband.kit.com/63905de2db Join That Husband's Corner, mailing list, and community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 14: MARRIAGE GATEKEEPERS I sat across the table from a man who's about to get married in four months—and what followed was one of the most honest conversations I've ever had on this podcast. He didn’t come with clichés or curated answers. He came with questions. Real ones. The kind that strip the fantasy from marriage and ask what’s actually underneath. Why marriage? Why her? What’s it supposed to shape in us as men? And how do we know we’re not walking into this thing with more ambition than understanding? In this episode, I don’t come as an expert, but as a husband still learning—still being chiseled. Together, we talk about what marriage reveals about God, about ourselves, and about the kind of love that refuses to quit. We wrestle with the weight of commitment, the humility that comes when your spouse sees the real you, and the joy that can only be found when two sinners choose to stay. We talk interracial love, long-distance strain, friendship before romance, and the terrifying beauty of becoming like Jesus through covenant love. If you're a man trying to make sense of marriage—whether you're single, dating, engaged, or already in it—this conversation is for you. It’s not polished. It’s not perfect. But it’s real. And if you’re anything like us, you’ll walk away from this episode a little more honest, a little more hopeful, and a little more willing to become the man marriage is calling you to be. Hit play. Let’s talk. Get in touch with us - [email protected] FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #MarriageUnfiltered #RealTalkMarriage #ModernMarriageMatters #YoungBlackMarried #BlackLoveTruths #MarriageWithoutFilters #MillennialMarriage #HusbandChronicles #MarriageIsWork #FaithfulHusbands #HusbandLife #MarriageTruths #WhatTheyDidntSay #MarriageIsNotEasy #UnspokenMarriage #ChristianMarriageTalk #VulnerableHusbands #NoMoreGatekeeping #MarriageLessons #MarriageStruggles #BlackMenLove #WeDoTalk #ThatHusbandPodcast #KingdomMarriage #Let’sTalkMarriage
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Broke, Two Babies & Getting Evicted: How Rock Bottom Built My Marriage - Lindo Zindela
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